Miss Kitty's at the Dragonfly

Ha, I don't know exactly what to say about Miss Kitty's come back to LA party.  I have only been to one of her parties before and that was a night that I was really sick.  I can say that I was thoroughly entertained!  Everyone around me seemed to be having a lot of fun.  I had the strange feeling of walking into a den of Nerds and Freaks in costume though.  I think that Miss Kitty and us were the coolest people in attendance.

The music was good and the drink prices were fair, but I could have debauched most of the crowd.  Also I am probably a little bitter because I fell in love with a beautiful submissive woman in a mask, to find out later that she was a unattractive clumsy Dom man. (only in my life)  But I did see a woman give head to a guy in the booth behind us, so I stopped being bitter pretty quickly and became more entertained.

The Great Pussy Eating Debate

My arm didn't really have to be twisted into this discussion.  Without a whole lot of pomp and circumstance I will say first and foremost that just like kissing, girls have pussy eating down pat.  Why?  They pay more attention to what is making their partner happy, they are gentle when they need to be gentle and rough when the need to be rough.  I also think that they tend to produce more saliva.  

I am in very much the same boat as my husband though as I have worked very hard with him in order to get it perfect with him.  He worships eating my pussy and takes his cues well when I am sitting on his face.  Most men however do not know what they are doing.  He always laughs when he watches another man have a go at it, "you didn't get any pleasure from that did you?" 

There have been exceptions like a certain married man we dealt with, but his wife's sexual energy and desires not to mention build were almost identical to mine so I am sure that he had lots of practice, it also helped that he showed so much delight in making me orgasm.  But again my husband and this other woman's husband were exception's.

First is never just blow on the pussy.  And practice makes perfect ;0)

Cherry

The Great Cock Sucking Debate

Who does it better guys or girls?

This has been debated in several circles and is even the topic/subject matter of many porn flicks, although that's not saying much, since what isn't a topic in porn these days.

So after much thought I decided to post my opinion.  Why, you say?  Well being bi and having had the experience of having my cock sucked by men and women I feel it is my duty to weigh in on the matter.

Now if you have read this blog before, you know that I am married to a bi girl. I will convince her to write her own opinion on the who eats pussy better debate. (Although I don't think it's much of a debate as women seem to think hands down women do it better)  But I will convince her to tell her story anyway so this blog has both.

On to the fellatio comparison!!!

Being in my early 30's and having my first sexual experience fairly young at the tender age of 15. I have had over 15 years of having my cock sucked.  Every girl I have ever been with/fucked  has given me head and a few others that I didn't even fuck who were just dying to get a piece of me for some reason and settled for sucking my cock when I refused to fuck them lol.  The funny thing about being with guys is that they seem more into sucking cock just for the sake of doing it where as girls for the most part only do it when you are working towards sex.  Because of this I think I have actually probably had more guys suck my cock than girls since accepting that I was bi.

Over the years I have only had two girls who really enjoyed sucking cock and I married one of them.  And no I didn't marry her because she loves it, but it sure is a fucking bonus.

I will tell you now that for me, if a girl doesn't get off on sucking cock I will not even cum.  She can suck it for a fucking hour till her jaw aches and I will not cum.  Maybe that's just me but that's been my experience.  Outside of my wife I have yet to experience a girl who works my cock to the point of me cumming and leaves me with a body shaking orgasm.

Why is her's so good and the rest of the girls so blah?  Not really sure, I can't put my finger on it outside of the fact that she is doing it for herself not for me.  It makes a huge difference, when she gets into and is moaning because she is enjoying it and I can tell when her mouth is working on my cock that she loves the taste and just wants to suck me till I cum in her mouth.  I'm actually getting hard as I type this and think about it.  She get's it really wet, works the shaft, my balls, and never runs her teeth over it.  It's an amazing experience.  The only downside I would say is that she really can't deep throat repeatedly and face fucking is very rare, but other than that all pluses.  If I was judging girls by the example my wife set's in the cock sucking department the girls would have it.

Unfortunately my wife is very rare in a number of ways so she can't bring it home for the girls.  If I was judging sheer number comparison, all the other girls I have been with, give lack luster blowjobs, most are hardly even worth mentioning or remembering.  It just seems that they are either to afraid to slut out on that cock or maybe they just don't like the taste either way it seems the other girls are just not up to par.  Very forgettable experiences as a whole.

Guy's as I've said before, hands down want to suck cock.  For some, want isn't even the proper word, more like need to suck cock would be better.  Still there are a few stand out qualities that it seems all guy's I have been with share that women in general lack.  The biggest is the ability to deep throat.  Now I'm not a small man, my cock is a solid 8in and pretty thick, enough for more than a mouth/throat full for a man or woman. But hands down 4 out of 5 guys can and will take my cock till they choke on it(a lot don't) and come up asking(the good ones begging) for more.  They also enjoy a bit of rougher play which I enjoy.  From cock slapping, to all out face/throat fucking.  I mean the kind you see in porn, head against the wall, or over the side of the bed throat fucking. 

It's also worth noting that guys will do it without caring if you fuck them or suck them back, all they want is that cock in their mouth and there is something appealing to that in a very selfish way.

So what's this mean in the great debate?  Guys or Girls?

Let's put it like this. 

If you want mouth watering head anyone who loves to do it is going to be the best at it.  Whether guy or girl.

However if you want a varied sucking experience that includes hardcore sucking, I give it to the guys that love the cock.

AND THAT'S WHAT'S UP!

The Good Girl

Why is it that women think that they can make good porn for us women.  I mean, I'm sure there are things that get everyone off, but I would consider The Good Girl fetish porn.  Porn for people who like really bad music and want to be bored during sex.  Twenty minutes turned into an eternity after the first six minutes.  I don't mean to be mean, I never do, but really.  How horrible were those accents and the point of porn is.... dum dum dummm... Sex.  Dirty, grimy kinda beautiful sex.  Not seventeen minutes of grinding with him mainly dressed and three minutes too long of milky white nothing very exciting.
Just saying, Erica Lust should see a sex therapist.  She has major not sexy enough issues and society boosting her ego to quickly has led to unsatisfying  porn movies.

High Heels

I have a firm belief that if you are having sex standing up you should wear high heels.  I just do not believe that flat footed against a door allows for the best angles to be hit.  It seems to me that instead the cock pops out and leads to a certain level of dissatisfaction.  In conjunction to this line of thinking, as a woman when I look down at my toes I see a perfect line of sexy that is not present when I do not have that extra boost.  My thighs look better, my breasts look better and I generally feel hot when I am in heels.  I'm just saying!

If you're a sadist and you know it clap your hands

I'm a sadist and I know it.

For years I wondered why I would get hard when Cherry would cry or become upset.  After I went to my first real bondage and s/m party in 2008 it all started to come into focus.  It was there that I realized I don't just like to watch others in various forms of discomfort but I revel in it.   However, I do enjoy a particular kind of sadistic play and that's prolonged sessions of pleasure mixed with sensory deprivation and pain.  I love to bind and leave them waiting, to get close to them and inhale their scent, to watch them shake with fear and anticipation to what I will do first.

I also have a major thing for spanking.  I mean serious over the knee spanking or even punishment with my trustworthy riding crop.  Nothing beats the sound of leather on supple flesh except perhaps the sound of wood.

Which makes being married to Cherry awesome as she has a masochistic streak in her and although it's not as strong as I would like, I'm allowed other human play toys to take out my desires on.  Which is doubly fun as she can be very sadistic to those with a sub mentality since she knows what that mindset is like from first hand experience.  I have seen her punch and beat on the chest of girls who are tied up to our bedposts, and finger fuck guys' ass till they moaned in mix of pleasure and agony.

I have made sub guys watch with anal plugs in their ass while I fuck hers while not allowing them to touch their cocks, and then afterwards send them home with orders not to jo.

Recently after a  bit of late night of drinking and watching dirty movies, I took her in the bedroom and fucked her ass repeatedly to intense orgasms.  Then put her on her back, got on top of her, and began to fuck her while choking her, squeezing her nose closed and then kissing her and pushing my tongue deep into her mouth for 20-30 seconds.

She convulsed and squirmed, and begged me to cum and I rewarded her of course.

Bar Sinister Los Angeles

Harry and I went out last Saturday night to a place called Bar Sinister.  We had heard that there was going to be a really great Burlesque Dancer performing and thought that it would be hot to check it out.  In my own opinion we have been to several outstanding Fetish- ish parties and this one is not on the hot list.  There were way too many kids and sub attractive people.  See below posts to see how I feel about that.
I saw several plays on domination going on and none of them were compelling.  I want to be stopped and have a intake of breath, instead I stifled several yawns.

The show was great, but almost too short.  The dancer Olivia Bellafontaine that we had come to see was beautiful and fluid.  She was worth the $10 admission.
I only have two more things two rant about....... Why in LA do promoters advertise masquerades when only 1/3 of the attendees wear masks?  And... If you want to take a picture of me that is cool, I dress to be noticed.  But douche bags open your mouth and ask permission first, you are much more likely to get something other than my back.  That is All

I'm a black guy...and thank god I have a big dick.

I'm a black guy...and thank god I have a big dick.

I mean who doesn't know this stereotype, is there anyone who hasn't heard, that black guys have big dicks? I mean I have a big dick and I'm black.  By big I mean larger than average actually much larger than average  as average seems pretty small.  Check link to see what I mean penis size.

In wiki the average is somewhere between 5-6.3 inches in length when fully erect and I'm coming in at a solid 8 and some change.  Giving much credence to the stereotype I might add.

I mean....have you ever wondered...what it must be like..for black guys, who don't have big cocks?
Considering the rampant porn, postings, listings, and overall general stereotype on the subject of  BBC(BIG BLACK COCK)the pressure must be immense for those with average cock pieces.  Heavens to mergatroid if you're weighing in as one of those less than average "bruthas".  Fuck! The deep desire to want to feel like you are a sex god with whoever you are sleeping with seems lined in our male dna.  At least for the males that I personally know, see, and the ones that are written and talked about in damn near every culture on the planet.  Seriously though, who doesn't want to feel that they are either sexually dominating the situation or want to feel like their partners are overly satisfied sexually while being with them.

Imagine though, that with black men, the idea is that we are wild sexual animals, with raging, throbbing, gigantic cocks ready to pulverize pussy, gag windpipes, and tear asses apart, generally leaving you in a sexual cum coma.   Awesome right.  If you're into I guess.  How does it feel though?   For that "brutha" on the shorter than average list.  When he hooks up with his first chick.  There she is all stoked and geared up with thoughts racing in her head of  getting her first look, taste and feel of the mythical Alabama black snake and it turns out to be baby earthworm...Now she is having fits of the giggles and he is sexually scarred for life.

What a fucking let down right.  This is what stereotypes create, it's akin to the myth that all tall black guys are great at basketball.  I for one am a tall black guy but I am not great at basketball, shit I can't even dunk how sad is that.  Digressing though, the point of this post to remind us all that we are people too not just sexual objects.  Yes I have a BBC, and yes I will use it to fuck you into a sex coma, male or female mind you.  But that's not all that I am sexually damn it!!  So keep that in mind when letting your fantasies run rampant.

And yes that is my real cock.

When Someone Else Comes To Play

Outside of having the most amazing husband in the world, we also have an incredible fuck friend.  He rarely has sex when he isn't with us, which is incredible and safer.  Last night he was over and we were able to play for the first time in awhile.  I find that it is exhilarating to have two totally different men playing court to my sexual desires and each other's.
Harry finally got to top.  I am so excited that I got to be present for it.  I was sucking our friend off, so I didn't get to actually see it, but the pressure was pretty fucking incredible.  The best part for me is that Harry doesn't let me be violent at all with him.  I always have to find someone else for that.  Whenever we play we always try to bring in someone that is at least a little submissive so that if I want to finger bang or bite their balls, it is not remiss.  I am not allowed to even pinch Harry's nipples, so this is always a novelty.
I am starting my Saturday in sexual bliss.  Lazy cat stretches and rubbing myself against Harry will be the gist of my day.

Is it just me?

I see sex in everything.  Rough dirty sex, in everything. My very gay Pilates Instructor often gives me a wooden rod to hold as I move the reformer.  The other day after it was no longer necessary to hold he took it from me and started using it as a pointer.  As he touched this body part or that for emphasis, my mind started dreaming of ways to provoke him.  Could I push this man who has no interest in women, who seems docile in manner to strike me with that rod of his.  I found myself making unseemly jokes about the rod and its many assets.  I finally caught myself and had that mind conversation..... "Stop it you oversexual freak!" But still... I had to write about it.

Wow Living a Real Life

I wish that I could have large breasts and threesomes all of the time. I often imagine that my husband is fucking one of our favorite boy toys as he is fucking me. I have ben wa balls that I pretend I am going to put in as soon as I get in from work, but the sex kitten of my imagination is far from my reality. After all the things that my day entails its some times hard to focus on some porn and give a blow job/hand job. I revel in the fact that even though I know the truth, I also know that most men are not allowed to have boy toys and most girls would never dream of being fisted. SO big middle fingers up to having something to prove to absolutely nobody.

Too close For Comfort

I woke up this morning and tried to do my morning yoga, but was distracted by the thought of Harry in the bed rubbing his morning hard on. I finally gave up my futile efforts and joined him for a morning sex session, as I sit across from him writing this, I again find myself distracted as his cum still fills my jeans and makes me want to jump on him again. But alas, we both have work to do and so I will have to cross my legs and hope later comes soon.

What I Wanna See

I was just talking to Harry and we were looking at Tumblr. We have recently discovered this site and while I love it immensely and spend a lot of time looking through the plethora of pictures there, I find that I am annoyed by the fabricated beauty sex faces. Now it would seem after my other post that I only like to see beautious people having sex, that is not the case. I only like to fuck aesthetically pleasing people. But I like to see sex raw, not overly made up, not lips pursed as if they had been practicing the perfect "oooohhhhh." The coiffed hair the perfect makeup takes away from my fantasy. No one likes to be sexually lied to..... Most of us hate a faker of orgasms

and yet these models of perfection are re-blogged and re-posted and a mannequin seems way more appropriate and a lot more kinky...

Presents...

I came home and heard a knock on the door. I opened it to have the post lady hand me a package. It had my name on it with no return address, no markings and nothing to give me any impression of where it was from. Of course I opened it up straight away and to my delight someone had the consideration to send me a feeldoe. I ran through the possibilities of who it might be from and my mind settled on "the bitch". He just recently sent a story about how he wanted to be fucked with one before my husband fucked him mercilessly and so on.... I was kind of getting of on the mental visual when my husband arrived home. We got caught up in the mundane, but when Harry finally went into the room, he immediately commented. "So it came, did you get a chance to see it?" Of course the only adult toy I have wanted in a long time, came from the man I want to use it on the most. Once I have broken my connection to the moon I hope to get a chance. Maybe we can post some pics....

Valentine's Day

A friend of mine was having a mental breakdown today because she could not afford a gift for her "new" boyfriend. Although she had already bought him cupcakes and a teddy bear she felt that he should have more to prove that she loved him. I gave her some homemade idea's since I saw it was so important to her, but really. I must say that she is a squirtter, and I know for a fact that he really enjoys that. If he were my boyfriend I would squirt all over his face since she usually runs off before it can happen in girly shame. If you want to show him he has your heart and not be soooo graphic, write a love letter, take a special picture and upload it to his computer as wallpaper. Whatever it is, if you are going to make it that big of a fucking deal, get creative.

Picturesque Thoughts Of Sex

Hot and Attractive

I have been doing research all day to see what other Bi-sexual couples look like. Most of what I found has been a little appalling. If I were an outsider I would think that almost all bi people are over sized, under aged, unattractive people who use the term bi sexual because they would settle for anyone touching them. Sounds mean I know, but I have been with enough hot bi sexual individuals and couples to know that there is more out there.
We are very picky, me more so than him, about who we allow into our beds. Personality counts for everything but why do people always feel that attractive people must settle for whatever comes their way to get their rocks off. i have been at swinger parties where people have tried to take liberties, people who normally in any other situation would not even have had the courage to speak to me. I sound like a bitch.....
I think that more people would be involved in bi situations if more hot people were admitting that they liked to lick pussy or play with assholes. How many attractive sets of girls have made out with other girls in the club to get attention. The truth is most of them enjoy it. I like to dance up to them and whisper in their ears, "can I finger you some times." I actually have never done it... My husband assures me that most men lose their M4M cherry in the locker room or frat houses. SO why when I go to swinger parties or meet people online they are gross or sexually unattractive? I admit to being the other half of an extremely geeked out couple, but fuck we are hot and deserve to play with people that we feel are hot as well. Oh well that is my rant....

Cherry

Menage et Trois

I touch you
And you touch her
Involved in a triangle
Not much different
Then the thatch of hair
That protects the sweetness
That dampens our lips
As she suckles my breast
And you probe my insides
With that special gift
Only you possess
I think
The circle is complete
Her woman
You man
And I the beast
Drinking the life forces
And sinking my teeth into
The flesh
Of her meat
After all is done
I sleep
And am sated!